Should we see each other before the ceremony or not?
Brides, you ask it. Photographers, you hear it.
Here is my take on it. I hope it helps you with your decision as a bride or photographer.
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Seeing each other before the ceremony…
PROS:
1. It will relieve stress. It’s very nerve racking when the doors open and there you are. Everyone is staring at you. You’re trying to focus on your honey while your concentrating on not tripping, not crying, where to go, and what to do next. Seeing each other before, you have less stress about him seeing you for the first time. You can focus on each other and nothing else. Oh, and it goes the same way for the groom; they get nervous too.
2. It will free your schedule. Because you’ve already seen each other, you can do all your couple, wedding party and family photos before the ceremony! That will allow you a prompt exit to the reception. No guest likes to wait and wait for the couple to arrive.
3. It will give you more time alone. When you take time out to see each other before, you have a chance to schedule a little time to yourself. Even if it’s 10 minutes, that’s more than what you’d get if you were to wait. After you say “I DO” and get to the reception, kiss quiet time together out the window!
CONS:
1. It is less traditional. You don’t get the WOW factor when she walks down the aisle and everyone is looking at her. You get the WOW factor between just the two of you. Oh, wait, I think that last part is a PRO.
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In conclusion…
TO BRIDES,
Many photographers mention for you to see each other before because they think it to be more time efficient. Yes, it is IF it’s done properly. I have witnessed weddings where the couple saw each other before and they spent hours before and after taking the standard photos. OBVIOUSLY, that was not effective. Talk with your photographer and see what they prefer and what their ideal schedule for photos is. Just like anything, some photographers prefer one way over another. Be open with them about what you’d like and work out something together. Just communicate.
TO PHOTOGRAPHERS,
Don’t mention this option if you do not prefer it. Don’t mention this option if you are not efficient at taking care of the photos before the ceremony. The bride is trusting you with not only the images and memories of her day, but your professional experience to guide the photo sessions and schedule seamlessly. Personally, I prefer this option. The first meet for the couple is a very important time of the day and it is treated with great respect, privacy, and sensitivity. I have never had a couple regret seeing each other before. But I have had couples state they wish they HAD seen each other before…
